Good morning everyone! I hope you are all enjoying your morning. Today I have an exciting topic to talk about. Value. You could call it self-worth, self-esteem, etc. But it all means the same thing. Personally, this is something I’ve struggled with a lot over the past several years, and honestly, I still do. I struggle with valuing myself and having good self-esteem. If you ask anyone close to me, they’ll probably tell you I’m a pretty cool dude. Some may even speak pretty highly of me. But if you asked me how I view myself, it’d be completely different. Part of it is due to my personality. INFJs are known for having low self-esteem. But another part of it is just the devil getting into my head because God did not intend for us to have low self-esteem.
God created us all unique for a reason. He gave us all a particular purpose. He gave all of us different talents and abilities. He made you different from everyone on purpose. You aren’t an accident. God created you in His image.
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.Genesis 1:27 (NIV)
He didn’t just come up with you on the fly or make a hasty decision. He made you precisely the way you are on purpose. Every single flaw you think you may have is not a flaw. He did that on purpose. Every single mark, hair, freckle, eye color, hair color, skin color, bump, shape, and size of you was designed down to your DNA. There is no way you could’ve just happened by accident. It’s impossible.
There is a saying that I agree and disagree with at the same time. “No one is perfect.” This is true to an extent. True we may not be perfect; we make mistakes. We are all human, and as the Bible says, “we all fall short of the glory of God.” But to say we are not perfect is also not true. To say that we are not perfect means that there is a mistake about us. That would mean God made a mistake when He created us, and God doesn’t make mistakes. You are not a mistake, and I’m not a mistake. Every single last part of us is made to perfection. No matter the way we see our selves, it doesn’t matter. God made us the way we are on purpose, without flaws.
I mean imagine that. God had to think about you years and years before you were born. Not only did he think about how you would look and act, but he also thought about your parents. How they were created, how they would meet and make you. Then he had to think of their parents, and then their parent’s parents till the beginning. God didn’t just create you; He created generations a specific way so He could get you to be exactly how He wanted you, where He wanted you, doing what He wanted you to do. Now if that isn’t mind-blowing idk what is. To think that God planned me out from the beginning of time is insane to think about. So don’t ever believe you are a mistake or that you aren’t perfect. Because you are. Every last part of you. From the freckles on your face to the way you sing in the shower to the hairs on your head to the toenails on your feet. Every part about you was designed without fault, to perfection.
Now here is where my problem comes in. I know all these things. I can logically put an argument behind all of this, but it doesn’t change how I feel. I still struggle with it. I’ll go into it more in-depth on Saturday when I discuss My 3-Parts, but my heart and mind are two different things. My brain understands and grasps how amazing I am and how God created me. But my heart says otherwise. It’s like I have two sets of eyes. One that sees me for what I am, and the other that sees me from what I wish I were. It’s so hard because it’s something I struggle with and I don’t know how to solve it. I have learned that when I’m in a good mood and doing good emotionally that my self-esteem is higher. But when I’m upset, or in a bad mood, my self-esteem drops quickly. Since I’m able to realize this, I’ve learned to take steps to help me raise my self-esteem. Because it’s one thing to have a problem, recognize it, and do nothing instead of just attempting to fix it. I have yet to find a solution to having low self-esteem, but I have found ways to help raise it. Here’s what I’ve learned:
1) Surround yourself with friends who compliment/encourage you. These kinds of friends are fantastic because they make you feel better. They will help lift your self-esteem and help you feel better about yourself. Because knowing you are worth something and feeling like you are worth something are two completely different things. So making sure you surround yourself with people who make you feel special is essential. (A good thing to pay attention to is making sure you’re making other people feel the same way 😉 Because you may be the only person who ever makes them feel that way)
2) Play happy music. This is something I’m not good at…Usually, when I’m upset, I end up listening to sad music, which I know doesn’t help but I can’t help it. But sometimes I have to force myself to listen to HAPPY music. Music that will bring my mood up and will force me not to focus on all the negative feelings I have about myself.
3) Do something! I’ve found that doing activities that distract me helps a lot. Not just any activity though. It has to be one that makes you think. Because if you’re allowed to think you can still focus on your negative feelings and it doesn’t help you at all. I’ve learned this the hard way. I’ve tried to distract myself by doing activities, but I didn’t do one that distracted my mind. Needless to say, when I do that, I usually either mess up what I”m doing or get stressed out. Neither are good turnouts, so it’s essential to make sure the activity is helping me instead of just making it work.
4) Praying. When I’m in the mental fighting ring with myself, I’ve learned I need to hand the gloves to someone stronger than me, because I’m never going to beat myself at my own game. So I go to God. I give it all to Him and just pour everything out to Him. It’s an awesome experience to trust and rely on Him to handle everything. To know that He’s there to remind me that I was created the way I am for a specific purpose is so amazing. So going and talking to the one who made me the way I am, always helps me.
So those are some of the ways that I try to overcome my negative feelings. It is hard, tough to not focus on them. It’s a constant battle, but it’s not impossible. Before I go, there is one last story I’d like to share with you. It’s a story that just popped into my head randomly recently.
So if I had a penny how many people would want it? Most people wouldn’t care, because it’s not worth much. Some people drop a penny at the grocery store and don’t feel it’s worth enough to go and pick up. A penny at face value is not worth much…to most people. Now, what if the penny had the year you were born on it? Or what if someone very special gave you the penny? What if the President, a Celebrity, or your crush gave you a penny? What if they penny was a rare edition that was worth $1,000,000? Or the penny has some sentiment like a lucky penny? If the penny were any of those things, then most people would want the penny. Some would even fight for it. But unless I told you it was any of those things you wouldn’t care. You would think it’s just a penny. And that may be how you feel; like a penny. You may not feel like much, or maybe you feel like people pass by you or don’t pay any attention to you. You may feel like people don’t care if you are left somewhere or that if you were left somewhere that no one would feel like you are worth picking up and taking home. You might feel like you are worthless. But that’s not the case. It’s just that you can’t see what you are worth. The thing about a penny is that not everyone sees it’s value. Many people may not see your true value. But it’s there. You are worth way more than most people, including yourself, can see. Some people will see it right away, some will take time, but you are priceless to someone whether it’s your family, a significant other, or a friend. Someone loves you for who you are because you are priceless. They see the value in you that you can’t. And because they know your value, they will fight for you. They will die for you if ever needed because to them, you are priceless. So don’t ever think you aren’t worth it. Don’t ever think that you were a mistake or that no one likes you because that’s not true. You are priceless to someone. Many may not see it, but you are precious no matter what anyone says. God would not have put all the time, effort, and planning into making you the way you are if you weren’t worth it.
Well, I hope you all enjoyed the topic today! That’s just something that’s been on my heart recently mainly because it’s something I’ve been struggling with for a long time and even more so lately. So I’m trying to find ways to be continually helping myself out. I hope that you all found this encouraging. At the very least for anyone who struggles with their self-esteem, you aren’t alone. I understand the pain, heartache, and grief. Don’t ever give up trying. I know that if I can make it, you can too! Just keep smiling and focusing on the positives. That’s what I try to do. Thank you all so much for reading my blog today! I hope you all have a very blessed day! Till next time, peace! And God Bless!!
~~~ INFJ Mickey