So a friend of mine suggested this as a topic for my blog, and I agree it is a good idea because I’m not sure if anyone else deals with things the same way I do. Or maybe lots of people do the same things as me, idk.
So when a high-stress situation arises, how do I handle it? Well, to be honest, it depends on the situation. Is the situation causing me high stress or someone else? If it’s causing someone else high stress, I’m a lot calmer, and I analyze the situation and try to solve the problem as quickly and smoothly as possible. I try to calm the other person down while also trying to provide a logical solution. Or if there isn’t one provide support and encouragement.
Now if I’m the one experiencing the high stress, then it depends on the situation. If an issue arises and it has to be solved, I go into instant fix mode. I’m like, “Go! Go! Go!” I want to find the quickest solution to the issue to end the stress as fast as possible. Regardless of the cost sometimes. When I’m in this mindset, I get a little panicky and tend not to think clearly because my main focus is solving the issue to end the stress. I hate failing, so when I’m in a high-stress situation, the pressure to resolve the issue quickly and not have any problems increases exponentially. But if the issue is an emotional one, like getting my heartbroken, I react differently, because there isn’t a problem to be solved. My initial reaction is me being shocked. I’m ok mentally, and I can reason for brief time because I’m in such a shocked state emotionally. But after a little while, my mind goes insane. It’s like my mind finally realizes that I’m hurting so bad, and when it experiences stress, it tries and solves the problem. But when there’s no problem to address my mind starts spinning out of control. Since I’m an introvert when I’m stressed out, my initial reaction won’t be to express what I’m feeling. It will be the opposite, and I will retreat into myself. When I’m stressed out, I will get quieter, not louder. I won’t talk to anyone about anything. When I’m in such a stressed-out state, I will probably try and avoid people. I might be on my phone more, and I might do more activities to avoid people. I’m just so stressed out I can’t spend the energy to interact with others. I wish to be alone and try and solve my issues, which is stupid because my mind is trying to resolve a problem that can’t be explained. It’s an endless loop.
So what have I learned with dealing with stress? Well, I realize when I’m stressed out, I need to be alone. Talking to people is a horrible idea because my mind isn’t functioning correctly so I can’t speak logically. I will say things that don’t make sense, or I will say things I wouldn’t usually say. So when I get stressed out, I need to take a step back and calm myself down, then try and come back and solve the problem. I’ve come to realize that I can’t just jump right in and try and resolve the issue. I need to give myself time to make a decision, because a lot of times I will try and solve the problem asap, and that will cause more issues. So when I get stressed out, I need to get some space and be patient. That’s what I’ve learned.
So now I’m curious. How do ya’ll deal with stress, and what do you do when you are in a high-stress situation? Thanks so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed it and maybe learned something. Till next time. Peace and God Bless!
~~~ INFJ Mickey